Well, this blog is not only for those of you who have lately been thinking that you might have been bitten by the love bug. It is not only for those of you who have met someone special. But love here refers to love on a broader perspective; irrespective of whether you are recently single, with a partner, divorced or married. I am referring here to self love.
You must be well aware of the importance of self love by now, with zillions of self help books flooding the bookstores. You might very well resonate with what is written in them going by your own life experiences. I am pretty sure those books and information act as a great motivator. You tend to quickly act on them by taking real good care of yourself. You work out, eat well, shop well, party hard and concentrate on your happiness. You also have a very good romantic relationship. All this is excellent, however it does not confirm self love in totality. These are only tools to enhance self love. To help you grow in self love.
Self love in its truest sense means having a heart full of compassion and forgiveness. You love yourself so much that you do not want to behold any feelings of negativity neither towards yourself or towards others. You are so deeply and madly in love with yourself that you are willing to forgive the guy who didn’t call you back, the partner who did not turn out the way you wanted, that person who walked out of your relationship, the girlfriend who dumped you, your father, your mother, your family, your children, the friend who betrayed your trust, the tyrannous boss, the unsupportive colleague or whoever you think hurt you in some way; and primarily you forgive yourself for any past mistake, guilt or regret. Quite often it is easy to forgive others but is difficult to forgive yourself.
Remember, when you learn from a mistake it is not a mistake anymore. It becomes a learning experience. So love yourself anyway. Forgiveness is the only path to release inner blocks.
Forgiveness empties negativity from within you and makes room for love and kindness. You can be in a relationship but not in love with yourself. If you have been holding angst against someone in the past or present. If you have closed your heart and have been unwilling to forgive. On the contrary, you could be single but completely immersed in love when your heart is full of compassion and forgiveness.
When you practice forgiveness you fill yourself with love. You find completeness in yourself. You become love. As it goes, ‘Like attracts like’, so ‘Love attracts Love’. Life starts flowing naturally and you experience miracles all the time. Remember only when you are truly and completely in love with yourself can you expand that love outwards and reach your highest capacity to love others!
So take a moment to ask yourself this question, “Am I in Love?”
About Monisha Doley
I am 26 years old, born in a small town of Lakhimpur, Assam in the north eastern region of India. I graduated from the Institute of Hotel Management and Hospitality Administration in Mumbai in 2010. I worked for Kingfisher Airlines and Qatar Airways and was in the aviation industry for almost five years. I come from a humble background and wasn’t very privileged financially so my only goal as a child was to earn a lot of money, which led me towards aviation. But just before my 25th birthday, I found myself asking BIG questions and was emotionally and spiritually drained. I had a quarter life crises! I was guided towards the self help industry and became a devoted student of metaphysics, the laws of the universe and ‘a course in miracles’. I know that I am meant to do transformational work with others. That’s why I am a life coach, motivational speaker and a self help book author today.